So You Booked The Date… and if you’re now wondering, what the heck am I supposed to do?! … you are far from alone. Read this guide and you are sure to win a spot on your new friend’s favourites list.
Disclaimer: A lot of this information is individual to me and I do not pretend to be speaking for all providers.
Congratulations! You got through screening okay and now you have an appointment booked to see a new friend! I am so happy for you! However – don’t make the mistake of assuming that just because you passed screening you are in the clear to do and say as you please. You are not entitled to anything just by the virtue of payment. All you have been granted is a chance to prove yourself to be a true gentleman worth a provider’s time. The manner in which you carry yourself moving forward will determine whether your new friend thinks you worth winning a spot in their list of regular suitors. Please do remember each companion is different and none of the following advice is meant to be taken as universal, but rather as general guidelines to help you get started and avoid committing any common faux paus.
Allow me to let you in on a little secret most bad clients fail to realize: the quality of your time together is correlated with how comfortable your provider feels with you. Making sure your date is comfortable and feels safe in your presence is of utmost importance to earning yourself a stellar time. In between review board members complaining left and right about everything a provider did or didn’t do and the overall general level of demanding and entitled behaviour that exists in this business, most of us are conditioned to be on guard for potentially abusive behaviour. Working in an industry where we are constantly told nothing we do is ever good enough, having a client that provides a safe space for us to relax and be ourselves is the ultimate gift you can give any provider you will meet.
It is also important to be aware of the many anxieties providers face simply through the nature of this job. The sad reality is that there are a lot of jerks out there. A lot of the precautions we take to protect ourselves are not personal affronts towards you, simply general safeguards against common abusive behaviour. Even if you think yourself to be the prime example model citizen, you have to remember we do not know you and we have zero ways of knowing if you, a stranger, are genuinely harmless or secretly up to no good. Do not take offense at any of the precautionary methods mentioned in this post as none of them are personal.
First, the most important thing and this applies universally to every single kind of date: give her the payment right at the very start. It is normally in good taste to have the cash ready in an envelope, but it’s not absolutely necessary. If you’re in a public place, give it to her discreetly hidden in a card or gift bag. Most of us appreciate it very much when a client sorts the payment right at the very start without being prompted to, as it is very awkward to have to interrupt the middle of the booking to ask for payment. Spare us from this.