It is an unfortunate reality that sex workers face disproportionate levels of violence at the hands of dangerous men. We remain the low-hanging fruit of serial killers, rapists, and all kinds of dangerous people looking to commit violence against women. When you ask us to not screen or for exceptions to be made for you, you are asking us to risk meeting someone who can really hurt us.
Dangerous people looking to harm us use the power of anonymity to thrive, as anonymity gives us zero recourse to hold them responsible if they hurt us. Think about it: If you were a man looking to commit crimes against women, would you not look for victims you can access anonymously so you could get away with it? Threaten to take their anonymity away, and these dangerous guys run in the other direction.
If we didn’t screen you, how can we really know if you’re really James the tech guy and not a guy with the intentions to beat us, rape us and/or rob us? Verifying you allows us to make sure you are a safe client to see while also putting us at ease with you. And believe me, if you want us to provide you with the best experience possible, our peace of mind is incredibly important! Please help us to feel safe with you by screening.
If you are still hesitant to screen, let me ask you: If it was your daughter, mother, or sister working, would you want them to meet unknown men in a risky setting without knowing who they are? If you’re of sane-mind, you will automatically say “No” to this. Give us the same regard you would any woman you love and the level of precautions you’d expect them to take for their own safety. We are human beings too and deserve to be safe from harm.