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Disclaimer: A lot of this information is individual to me and I do not pretend to be speaking for all providers. <\/em><\/h6>\n\n\n\n

Finding a Provider<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When looking for a provider, do a bit of research on them to find out if they\u2019re legitimate. There are a lot of fake ads, sketchy providers and scammers you need to be on the lookout for. This industry attracts a lot of bad people and it is both the client and provider\u2019s responsibility to keep themselves safe. If you live in a place where sex work is criminalized, you have the added burden of avoiding arrest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a general rule of thumb, you want to be wary of ads that offer little information and that seem to be good to be true. Directory listings on websites like Leolist are littered with these. Fantastic pictures and really low price? Red flag. Don\u2019t jump the gun. Google their contact information and figure out if they\u2019re active anywhere else. If in doubt, do a reverse image search on their pictures and figure out if they\u2019re really their own. The general life advice of \u201cif it sounds too good to be true, it probably is\u201d<\/strong> applies here.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There a lot of horror stories from clients about having gone seen a provider who turns out, at best, to be nothing like their pics or at worst, violent or a cop. Majority of these things can be avoided through screening.<\/strong> Screening is not just for the providers, it is also for the clients. Stop and ask yourself: Why would a person feel comfortable meeting a stranger without knowing anything about them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For your own safety as a client, you should ALWAYS<\/strong> be twice as wary of providers that require little to no screening. Without a doubt, I guarantee you 99% of the horror experiences clients go through are committed because they went to see a provider that did not screen (just as most horror experiences escorts go through happen because we didn\u2019t screen \u2026 see the parallel?). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Think of the following scenarios: A scam artist will not screen because their intention is to get you through the door by all means. A pimp\/trafficker only cares about money, and their intentions are to get as many clients as possible. They will not screen because they have little concern for the welfare of their victims. A cop setting up a honeypot sting is trying to arrest as many people as possible in the least amount of time. They, too, will not screen (they can just get your information after<\/em> arresting you!) A responsible escort, however, will always screen<\/a> because they want to make sure they are meeting a real person who will not harm them. In a criminalized country, we also screen you to make sure you are not a cop!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In summary, if you want to mitigate the risk of a potential scam artist, trafficking victim, and\/or getting arrested, find a provider<\/strong> who screens. <\/strong>I\u2019ve said it a million times and will say it once more: screening benefits both clients and providers. If you choose not to follow any of this advice and take your chances with those who don\u2019t screen, I wish you the best of luck, because you will seriously need it. Just please, whatever you do, don\u2019t be that annoying person who chooses to only think with the small head, and then goes and complains online that he got set up by a shady ad listing as if there were never red flags he chose to ignore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But Stefania, I am scared to give up my personal information! I don\u2019t want anyone to know I\u2019m seeing escorts! Why do I need to screen? Why can\u2019t you just trust me?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

While I am sympathetic and understanding to the hesitation you might have at screening, I\u2019d like you to step back and see the bigger picture. While both parties have something at risk, it is without question the risk escorts carry is much, much heavier than the risk of a client. We remain the low-hanging fruit of all sorts of violent people looking to commit violence against women. Expecting us to meet a man alone in an intimate and risky setting without knowing who he is ludicrous. The worst thing that can ever happen to a client is not even slightly comparable to the worst thing that can happen to an escort. Please help to make us feel comfortable to see you and prioritize our need for safety. (For more information on screening and why we do it, feel free to pop over to my Screening FAQ<\/a>.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When looking for a reputable provider, another very important thing to keep an eye out for is the amount of effort they put into their work. Personal websites, professional pictures, active social media accounts and well-written advertisements are normally good signs of a legitimate provider as they require an investment of time and money<\/em> which most shady people looking to make a quick buck out of you aren\u2019t going to bother with. The places they advertise in are also good representatives. Directories like Leolist provide cheap costs for posting ads, which is why a lot of scammers flock to them. Websites like Slixa<\/a> are more expensive to advertise in, which serve as a filter for the quality of providers on them. Slixa is even more <\/em>exclusive as they require the providers who advertise with them to screen with them first.<\/em> That is to say, they ask us to prove who we are to make sure we are legitimate. Are you starting to see why screening is so important? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t want anyone to take this as me saying that anyone who advertises on Leolist is automatically bad (I advertise on there!), but I am<\/em> strongly suggesting to be twice as vigilant. Google their contact information and see if they\u2019re active on any other websites. Found a provider on Leolist who also crossposts on Tryst.link and Slixa with a professional website? You\u2019re probably good. Found a provider on Leolist with amazing pictures at 200\/hr not active anywhere else, and a 3-sentence advertisement? The red flags should be flashing nice and bright right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When NOT to Contact an Escort<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Many clients ruin their chances with providers before it even starts because they lack the awareness of knowing when it is and is not appropriate to contact them. I hope to bridge this gap of knowledge through this section.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Generally, you want to avoid contacting an escort unless you are ready to book an actual appointment. Understand we run a business and our time and energy is just as valuable as anyone else\u2019s. If you find a provider you like but aren\u2019t ready to yet book an appointment, resist the temptation to send them a message just to tell them this. If you wouldn\u2019t go out of your way to randomly call a hairdresser you have no intention on seeing just to tell them you like their work but \u201cunfortunately, I do not need a haircut right now!\u201d, give escorts and their business the same regard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many escorts will often come off as cold, business-like and\/or disinterested in initial correspondence with new clients. This is not because we do not want you as clients -prior experience has shown most of us most people who contact us are not in any way serious about seeing us. Over time, one quickly learns that energy needs to be reserved for people who prove themselves to be serious from the get-go, not the person that maybe<\/em> is a serious client but just happens to have poor etiquette. The burden of proof that you are a serious client is on YOU, not on the provider \u2013 if you want an escort to not pass you over and think you are serious about seeing them, show it through your actions from the very start. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Found a provider you like but have a general question you would really like to get an answer to? Show them you are serious and not a timewaster by backing up your words with actions<\/em>.<\/em> I have had clients send me giftcards\/money transfers and\/or their full screening information along with any questions\/comments they might have and this works miracles<\/em> in standing out from the rest.<\/em> This shows me they are serious and not just trolling escorts at random trying to get free attention with zero intentions of booking. Use actions, not words!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A common enquiry escorts receive is about travel. I understand how frustrating it must be as a client to find a provider that has grabbed your interest, only to realize they are located quite a distance from you! I can also<\/em> understand the temptation there is to \u201cinnocently\u201d ask them if they would oh-so-ever consider coming to your city, and if they could please let you know if they ever tour to your location?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is terrible etiquette for many reasons, the biggest one being that it lacks consideration for the high costs involved in touring. Overhead costs for tours are VERY expensive when you take into account flights, accommodations and advertising costs alone. Asking providers to pay out of pocket to come to your location just to make it convenient for you <\/em>to book is, quite frankly, selfish and short-sighted. If you want to see a provider located outside your home location, the best course of action is to enquire about a Fly-Me-To-You travel booking<\/a> or, better yet, make a trip out of it and go visit them at their home! If, however, you live in Calgary and happen to like a provider based in Toronto but only want to see them for an hour appointment, spare the poor companion and look elsewhere for someone closer to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I should also not forget to note that many escorts have stories of having toured to locations clients had expressed interest in before, only for them to get there and the same clients who begged them to go there ending up ghosting or never booking an appointment. Unless you are serious<\/em> and ready to back up your desires with solid, immediate actions,  leave your \u201cmaybe\u201d bookings at home and don\u2019t waste a provider\u2019s time. And definitely<\/em> don\u2019t be surprised when they treat your empty \u201cdesire to book\u201d with skepticism and coldness. Book ONLY  when you are fully prepared!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Contacting an Escort<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When you are finally<\/em> ready to book an appointment to see a provider, you want to make sure you are tactful in the way you approach them. Read their ad and\/or website thoroughly and see what they need from clients. Escorts deal with a lot of timewasters and rude clients who test our patience on the regular, following their instructions and sending a respectful message with all the information they require will immediately put you ahead of 99% of the crowd (this number is not an exaggeration). First impressions are crucial and you only get one chance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most providers take the time to post basic information in their ads\/websites like their schedule and rates for YOUR<\/strong> convenience, please READ<\/strong> and do not send a message asking \u201cwhat are you rates?\u201d or \u201care you available?\u201d if they already have those answers listed! This is THE  #1 escort pet peeve.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Examples of common poor messages:<\/p>\n\n\n\n