How To Get Into An Escort’s Good Books

First time seeing an escort? Want to learn how to make your favourite girl like you? Read the following to avoid making a faux pas and become an escort’s favourite client.

Disclaimer: A lot of this information is individual to me and I do not pretend to be speaking for all providers. 

Finding a Provider

When looking for a provider, do a bit of research on her to find out if she’s legitimate. There are a lot of fake ads, sketchy providers and scammers you need to be on the lookout for. This industry attracts a lot of bad people and it is both the client and provider’s responsibility to keep themselves safe. 

As a general rule of thumb, you want to be wary of ads that offer little information and that seem to be good to be true. Directory listings (Backpage, Leolist) are littered with these. Fantastic pictures and really low price? Red flag. Don’t jump the gun. Google her contact information and figure out if she’s active anywhere else. If in doubt, do a reverse image search on her pictures and figure out if they’re really hers. The general advice of “if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is” applies here.

There a lot of horror stories from clients about having gone seen a girl who turns out, at best, to be nothing like her pics or at worst, violent and/or a scammer. Majority of these things can be avoided through screening. Screening is not just for the providers, it is also for the clients. Stop and ask yourself: Why would a woman feel comfortable meeting a stranger without knowing anything about him?

For your own safety as a client, you should ALWAYS be twice as wary of providers that require little to no screening. Without a doubt, I guarantee you 99% of the horror experiences clients go through are committed by providers who don’t screen (just as most horror experiences escorts go through are committed by clients we don’t screen … see the parallel?). 

Think of the following scenarios: A scam artist will not screen because their intention is to get you through the door by all means. A pimp/trafficker only cares about money, and their intentions are to get as many clients through the door as possible. They will not screen because they have little concern for the welfare of their victims. A responsible escort, however, who cares about her safety will always screen because they want to make sure they are meeting a real person who will not harm them.

In summary, if you want to heavily mitigate the risk of a potential scam artist, trafficking victim, or general bad person, find a provider who screens. I’ve said it a millon times and will say it once more: screening benefits both clients and providers. If you choose not to follow any of this advice and take your chances with those who don’t screen, I wish you the best of luck, because you will seriously need it. Just please, whatever you do, don’t be that annoying guy who chooses to only think with the small head, and then goes and complains online that he got set up by a shady provider as if there were never red flags he chose to ignore.

Another thing to keep an eye out for is the amount of effort a provider puts into their work. Personal websites, professional pictures, and well-written advertisements are normally good signs of a legitimate provider as they require an investment of time and money which most shady people looking to make a quick buck out of you aren’t going to bother with. The places they advertise in are also good representatives. Directories like Leolist and Backpage provide cheap costs for posting ads, which is why a lot of scammers flock to them. Websites like Slixa and Eros are more expensive to advertise in, which serve as a filter for the quality of providers on them. Slixa and EROS are even more exclusive as they require the providers who advertise with them to screen with them first. That is to say, they ask us to prove who we are to make sure we are legitimate. Are you starting to see why screening is so important? (P.S: Eros sucks, use Slixa.)

I don’t want anyone to take this as me saying that anyone who advertises on Leolist is automatically bad (I advertise on there!), but I am strongly suggesting to be twice as vigilant. Google her contact information and see if she’s active on any other websites. Found a provider on Leolist who also crossposts on TERB and Slixa with a professional website? You’re probably good. Found a provider on Leolist with amazing pictures at 200/hr not active anywhere else, and a 3-sentence advertisement? The red flags should be flashing nice and bright right now.

Contacting an Escort

When contacting an escort to book an appointment, you want to make sure you are tactful in the way you approach her. Read her ad and/or website thoroughly and see what she needs from clients. Escorts deal with a lot of timewasters and rude clients who test our patience on the regular, following her instructions and sending a respectful message with all the information she requires will immediately put you ahead of 95% of the crowd (this number is not an exaggeration). First impressions are crucial and you only get one chance.

Most escorts take the time to post basic information in their ads/website like their schedule and rates for YOUR convenience, please READ and do not send a message asking “what are you rates?” or “are you available?” if she already has those answers listed! This is THE  #1 escort pet peeve.

Examples of common poor messages:

  • “are you available?”
  • “what are your rates?”
  • “do you do bbbjcim?”
  • “hi babe”
  • “hi”
  • “i am tall fit and handsome not like the other guys you see”

If you send any of the above, don’t be surprised if you receive a snarky reply back (guilty as charged). 

Example of an excellent introductory message:

  • “Hello Stefania, my name is ________. I found your ad listed on ______ and was super interested in meeting you! A little bit about me: I am __ years old and I work in finance. I am Caucasian, about 5’6 tall, and physically pretty fit with maybe a couple extra pounds to spare. I like to go skiing in the winter when I’m not working and am a big fan of science fiction novels. I took a look at your schedule and noticed you’d be working downtown on January 18th, would it be possible to meet at 5pm for 2 hours? For your records, my cell number is xxx-xxx-xxx and my LinkedIn account is ______ . If you need any more information, please do not hesitate to ask. I look forward to your reply!”

(Feel free to steal that template for yourself)

Let me just reiterate why this is so important. We get hundreds of messages from people who don’t respect our rules or don’t bother to take the 5 minutes required to read our ads/websites. Constantly answering the same questions with information that is already listed will eventually wear down even the most patient person on this planet. I am sure I speak for most if not all providers when I say, someone who extends the smallest amount of effort to at least follow our rules and basic booking requirements is like an oasis in an otherwise chaotic storm. Be that guy.

Be respectful of an escort’s time. Most escorts require at least a few hours notice, others 24+ hours, again take a look at what kind of notice she asks for. This is very individual (for what it’s worth, I ask for 24 hours notice for pre-bookings, unless it’s a same-day appointment on a day I’m hosting incalls, in which case I am fine with 3 hours). Nothing says to me “I don’t have any consideration for you” more than a message that asks to meet me on my off-day, or a client who seems to think I have no life outside my job and am available 24 hours around the clock. This means that if I post I’m hosting incalls on Thursday, don’t ask me for a half-hour Wednesday incall appointment. If I post I’m working 8am to 10pm, don’t message me drunk at 3am. The only exception to this is if you understand that convenience has a cost. Only in town one day and really want to convince your favourite girl to see you outside her scheduled hours? You better be willing to make it worth her while. 

Unless she states she is okay with it, please don’t message an escort at 12:41pm looking for a 1pm appointment. It takes time to screen and get ready for an appointment, and time needs to be set aside for you. Most of us are not sitting around, dressed ready to go, phone in our hands waiting for you to call us. We have other jobs, school, families, chores, and other life responsibilities we are not able to stop at the drop of a hat. Me, personally? Chances are I’m in sweatpants with no make-up on when you send me that “are you available?” text. Plan ahead.

On the same token, if you book an appointment, respect the time. If you need to cancel, for the love of all that is Holy, do not text her 10 minutes beforehand, or at worst, ghost her. The time you book is time reserved for you that could have gone to another client. Cancelling with zero regard costs her precious time and money and is often enough reason for an escort to blacklist you. Different people have different rules on cancellation policies, make sure to ask.


Screening methods are a big roadblock for both clients and providers, and a huge source of headaches it warrants a post of its own (see Screening FAQ). For now, all I will say is, respect an escort’s screening methods. This is a very individual thing and up to the provider to determine what they are comfortable with. Some people are comfortable with just a phone number, others need more personal information. It is NOT up to you to decide what is and is not acceptable for a provider to ask for. If a provider asks for something you are not comfortable giving, do not message her trying to negotiate, or at worst, argue with her about it. It is very rude. Move on and find someone else.


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