So You Booked The Date... and if you're now wondering, what the heck am I supposed to do?! ... you are far from alone. Read this guide and you are sure to win a spot on your new friend's favourites list.

Last Updated: November 11th, 2019

Disclaimer: A lot of this information is individual to me and I do not pretend to be speaking for all providers. 

Congratulations! You got through screening okay and now you have an appointment booked to see a new friend! I am so happy for you! However – don’t make the mistake of assuming that just because you passed screening you are in the clear to do and say as you please. You are not entitled to anything just by the virtue of payment.  All you have been granted is a chance to prove yourself to be a true gentleman worth a provider’s time. The manner in which you carry yourself moving forward will determine whether your new friend thinks you worth winning a spot in their list of regular suitors.

Allow me to let you in on a little secret most bad clients fail to realize: the quality of your time together is correlated with how comfortable your provider feels with you. Making sure your date is comfortable and feels safe in your presence is of utmost importance to earning yourself a stellar time. In between review board members complaining left and right about everything a provider did or didn’t do and the overall general level of demanding and entitled behaviour that exists in this business, most of us are conditioned to be on guard for potentially abusive behaviour. Working in an industry where we are constantly told nothing we do is ever good enough, having a client that provides a safe space for us to relax and be ourselves is the ultimate gift you can give any provider you will meet.

First, the most important thing and this applies universally to every single kind of date: give her the payment right at the very start. It is normally in good taste to have the cash ready in an envelope, but it’s not absolutely necessary. If you’re in a public place, give it to her discreetly hidden in a card or gift bag. Most of us appreciate it very much when a client sorts the payment right at the very start without being prompted to, as it is very awkward to have to interrupt the middle of the booking to ask for payment. Spare us from this.

Get ready to talk. I am not a robot, so you better not expect to treat me like one. If you’re coming to see escorts expecting to be glued to the bed for the entire duration of the date, get another hobby. Or at the least, don’t come see me. I’m here to provide a human experience, to connect with you and get to know you as a person. We are going to do this first through talking. If you’re actually interested in getting to know me as a person, I’ll feel a lot more comfortable around you than if I can see that you’re clearly only interested in one thing. Let’s converse!

Always take a shower. When you visit an escort at her incall, whether it’s at the very start of the date, fifteen minutes in, or whenever she tells you to, always shower. Most providers provide clean towels and body soap for you to wash up. It doesn’t matter if you just showered 5 minutes beforehand, your provider has no way of confirming this. To make her feel comfortable, clean up without a fight whenever she asks you to. 

Don’t ask about a menu. The truth of the matter is, if I don’t like you and don’t feel comfortable in your presence, you are not going to be ‘unlocking’ anything special with me. I aim to provide an experience and my experience with one person will not translate to the same with another (which is a main reason you should be wary of reviews … but that’s for another time). If you’re nice to me, you’re most likely to get the best end of the stick. The best kind of experience is always when things are left to their natural devices and you are not trying to tick off a bunch of boxes off a long list.

Listen and respect her boundaries. If she tells you she is not comfortable with you doing one thing or the other, for the love of God, listen to her. NO is a full-sentence. Disrespect of boundaries is a quick and easy way to find yourself industry-wide blacklisted.

If you are hosting an outcall, make sure the place is clean. It is rude to have a guest over in a dirty environment, so make sure the place is at least some level of clean. Offer her some private time in the bathroom to freshen up, it’s very much appreciated! Tip: Leave her donation in the bathroom where she can easily find it and save you both of you having to even talk about it.

If you are going out in public together, realize that different providers have different comfort levels when it comes to PDA. Don’t take this personally at all – some people are more open to it, others not so much. You’ll find out quickly enough where your friend stands. 

Respect your provider’s privacy and never enquire about personal information. Asking identifying things like what their real name is, where they go to school and similar can come off as very intrusive and make most providers uncomfortable. We use aliases for safety and privacy concerns and nosing around asking for these things makes you look like someone who does not respect our need for privacy. People often can, and do, misuse this information to harm providers and it is always in a provider’s best interest to be precautionary. It is nothing personal – really. If a provider ever decides to trust you with personal information, allow them to be the first to broach the topic – don’t push for it!

And the final piece of etiquette advice I have… please respect her time. If you booked for a half-hour, don’t expect to stay for an hour. If you booked for 3pm, don’t show up at 3:20pm.  I understand sometimes life gets in the way and things aren’t always perfect, but please always do your best to be on time and I will do the same for you. Communicate if there’ll be any delays – I don’t mind it so much when clients are late as long as I’m kept in the loop about it. Things happen. 

A good provider will be aware of the time without being a “clockwatcher”, so when she warns you time is coming to an end, you can either 1) ask to extend the session if you want more time or 2) start wrapping  up to go.

The most important thing, however, is to relax and have fun! If you made it through screening, chances are we feel some level of comfort sharing this experience with you! This is your time to enjoy, so kick back and have a good time. I hope we are able to meet over and over again!

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This Post Has 5 Comments

  1. I read your profile and all the helpful information about booking, etiquette etc with great interest. I believe the information you have provided is a great primer to whomever is a newbie (like me) and will be venturing into the world of hiring an escort. Unfortunately, I won’t be able to travel for that pleasure with you, but I thank you for educating me just the same. I will gratefully use your information to spend time with ladies down here in SW Florida. Thank you again..I appreciate the education.

    1. xostefania

      I am very happy to help. Didn’t write the guides just for me, but to also help my colleagues. Hope you have some amazing encounters! Wish you all the best.

  2. I have just discovered the world of escorts and you have such helpful information. Do you mind if I post a link to this on Reddit (specifically this subreddit https://www.reddit.com/r/SexWorkers) ? Or obviously you could if you wanted to.

    1. xostefania

      Sure, no problem at all! Just make sure to credit appropriately. Happy to be of help.

  3. Again, thank you for the excellent article.

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